I know I’m blessed to have a caregiver that comes Monday thru Friday. She is wonderful and takes really really good care of my mother and me. This week she made french toast and left some in the microwave for me when I returned from my morning walk.
She pays close attention to my mother and will alert me if she notices anything different with my mother. Most days we laugh and joke before I head upstairs to my work area but then there are the days when I just can’t seem to tolerate her.
She has this habit of talking out-loud of things that most people just keep inside. For instance when your phone alerts you that the incoming call is probably a spam call. Most of us would just ignore the call and then block it. But not my caregiver she starts a tirade of “I don’t know who that is calling me. Why would people call me when I’m at work. Telemarketers should stop calling me I have not money for them” on and on for at least 30 sec to 1 min. I can hear her talking to the TV also. She has a loud voice so even though I’m upstairs I can hear her. Unfortunately my work area doesn’t have a door so I would close my door if I had one!
I mean who does that? Most days once she dies down than everything is ok but some days I just can’t take it. I’m normally working on one of my books and need to concentrate and her out burst disturb me. There are times when I say “I’m on the phone.” Which is the polite way of saying “please stop talking”. One day I had to go down stairs and close the door to my mother’s room where they were because I couldn’t concentrate.
Sometimes when I think about it , I laugh but honestly I don’t like. But when you have someone who is so wonderful at taking care of your loved one, the only decent thing to do is give her the space to be her because after all, she gives me the space to be me.
Caregiver tip
Getting my mother to eat is similar to what parents of toddlers go thru. You find something they really like and you give them a little of that first then the next bite of the other and you alternate. My mother has begun to recognize what I’m doing because she will look at what’s on the spoon then at me. I will announce what it is then say “and the next bite will be pudding! “
Caregiving.....Screaming is allowed! 
Aloha My Friend!
Sounds like this post is appropriately titled, that is entirely, “Too Much Noise!” I know what you mean. Some people need time alone to concentrate and center. It’s okay to be where you are, to accept what you are experiencing, and that’s probably all you really can do. Caregivers and other people in general can be helpful, but other people come with their own idiosyncrasies. It’s all a part of having others in your personal space. In opening up, while you’re subject to being annoyed, you also gain valuable friendship. Love you bunches!
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